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unfortunately I like any other human being made mistakes in my life. Some trifle and some with disastrous results. If I had the chance to go back in time undoubtedly I try to not make the same mistake. However, sometimes I told myself that making mistake is an inherent part of human being and sometimes these mistake- if we lesson from them- brighten our way and our mind not to make similar mistake in future and achieve our goals by not repeating them. So considering this point, I decided not to go back but go forward with determined mind to make brighter future.
To be hones I am influenced by other people general appearance and behavior. Most of the time I try not to judge people by their physical appearance. I think everybody – beautiful or ugly – should always be clean and neat. I think that everybody must put dresses and behave in such way that is compatible with their social classes.
If bad luck or life bring a situation of less attractiveness – I mean ugliness- it will be hard to manage but what I could do, I have to tolerate and accommodate myself to new situation and find ways to compensate my weakness with positive values and virtue and intellect.
If I have to choose between beauty and intelligence I implore God to grant me s part of both. I think moderation in everything is the best.What we should do to pave the way for a better future. Then I evaluate how it could help me preventing making mistake, selecting reliable good friends and ask to help me choosing better goals in life and achieving them.
Nearly always in my life I felt short of time. I always have something to do and my works never seem to finish so I think I am behind the time and behind schedules. I consider myself not a lazy person but why I am always behind the schedules is one of my distressing problems. As I grew older this filling grew larger and my shortage of time became even worse. May be the time passes quicker than before. I remember when I was a child it tools a long time that summer arrived and exams finished but now it is just a blinking from this year to the next. I always blame myself of wasting my time, if there is any. I think never ever I could compensate for such big loss.
He went home with a heart repleted with desire and sorrow. He knew if he missed this opportunity he might not have a similar chance again. He reached home, checked her mother condition and then wanted to go to his room. Her mother noticed that there was a problem with him asked what’s the matter my child? He said : nothing. She asked again and insisted. At last he explained the story. Her mother face became wet with tear. She told” My son, you tried so hard all past years. There were so many nights you didn’t sleep and study to reach this point. you must continue and achieve your goals. This is also the ultimate objective of me and your father. You shouldn’t miss it. You must go. Don’t bother about me. I could manage my life. He said” Mother , you cannot. You’re sick and need to be rest at your bed and take your medicine. I couldn’t leave you alone. Mother said ” son, I’m not that bad. Don’t worry about me. Even if I die, I will be glad in my grave. Didn’t reach to a conclusion they felt asleep that night.
Unfortunately we are too busy these days to spend time with our friends and socialize with them. But I think nothing in the world is much satisfying comparing to spending leisure time with family and friends. If we have the chance of having qualified, knowledgeable and good friends little by little we learn more from them and eventually will be more similar to them. There is a famous poem from great Persian poet Saadi who said the excellence of your company can affect you and totally change you as those changes which happen in ordinary soil by accompaniment to roses and acquiring the sent of roses as the result of their accompaniment. I deeply believed that we can know somebody by looking his/her close friends. Everybody is reflection of his/her friends. In other words a man is known by the company he keeps”.
I usually try to forgive other people wrongdoing. But not unconditionally. At first it depends upon what they did and second if they notice they did something wrong and try and promise not to repeat it.
sometimes somebody does something that could not be forgotten. Nelson Mandela said We forgive but not forget. I believe to what he said.
Sometimes if you forgive it could lead to more harm than good. As Saadi said ” compassion with a savage tiger is oppression to innocent sheep”Its a fact that many of us experienced or even happened to us that being successful in school is something different with running a successful prosperous life. I personally have this experience in my classmates performance and also to some extent in my life.
In my opinion although there are some correlation between scholastic success and flourishing life but achieving personal goals and having a successful adulthood life and career needs more developed qualities and advanced skills.
Many children try hard to get good grade and be successful as a student. This may result from their own will or sometimes occur under the pressure of their parents and teachers and sometimes their success comes from close competition with their classmates. But we all experienced that what really happens in life and all difficulties and challenges we have to deal with are different from those we come across in our childhood. To thrive in life and have a satisfying and lucrative job need at first the insight of choosing a job that you like and and beside that require knowledge and personality traits like time management, perseverance, resilience and the ability to have good interpersonal connection and have a good sense of team work.
Many of these skills are not taught in schools. So we frequently saw successful students who are not achieving success in their adulthood or vice versa children with poor performance at school but very successful in their career. There is another thing that I want to mention. Some children develop mentally and thrive gradually so they reach to a point of having a good insight of life and the knowledge of how they must behave and act later in their life. To be more clear and say it in other words they become mentally mature later in life.
1-There is a poem written by one of the most famous Iranian poets Saadi that said A good and praiseworthy man never die. I like to such a person that after death people have a good memory of me.
2- An honest and trustworthy, hardworking and patriot man.
3- My close friends and if they could my wife or one of my children. Because then probably know me better than anyone else.